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Jules; non-binary being; they/them/their or ey/em/eir. One time I made a pun about Karl Marx and the 1848 revolutions that was so terrible that it took five minutes to explain. It's my proudest achievement.

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I just texted my mom to ask, on a scale of small kittens to nuclear war, how worried she’d be if I made a brief visit to Ukraine next May. She said, “Just don’t tell me.”

Okay mom. good policy.

They say that “Confronting triggers, not avoiding them, is the best way to overcome PTSD”. They point out that “exposure therapy” is the best treatment for trauma survivors, including rape victims. And that this involves reliving the trauma and exposing yourself to traumatic stimuli, exactly what trigger warnings are intended to prevent. All this is true. But I feel like they are missing a very important point.


Psychotherapists treat arachnophobia with exposure therapy, too. They expose people first to cute, little spiders behind a glass cage. Then bigger spiders. Then they take them out of the cage. Finally, in a carefully controlled environment with their very supportive therapist standing by, they make people experience their worst fear, like having a big tarantula crawl all over them. It usually works pretty well.

Finding an arachnophobic person, and throwing a bucket full of tarantulas at them while shouting “I’M HELPING! I’M HELPING!” works less well.

And this seems to be the arachnophobe’s equivalent of the PTSD “advice” in the Pacific Standard. There are two problems with its approach. The first is that it avoids the carefully controlled, anxiety-minimizing setup of psychotherapy.



Rules: Just insert your answers to the questions below. Tag at least 10 followers.

I was tagged by cosmicmewtwo


uh…I’m not tagging ten, but I will tag jcatgrl, wedgewoof, whywalkwhenyoucanwaltz, sarahroth, and I guess anyone else who wants to do it!

Name: Julia

Nickname: Jules

Birthday: May 15

Gender: no

Sexuality: ace

Height: 5’4”

Time Zone: I’m usually in Eastern Standard or Daylight Time, sometimes in Pacific and sometimes in whatever GMT+1 is called

What time and date is it there: 10:49 am, August 27

Average hours of sleep I get each night: between 6 and 7

The last thing I Googled was: Tilda Swinton, apparently

My most used phrase(s): (while pointing at a dog) dog!, would you like to see pictures of my dogs?

First word that comes to mind: rzeczywisty (the adjective “real,” in Polish)

What I last said to a family member: goodnight (on the phone with my mom)

One place that makes me happy & why: the mountains back home

How many blankets I sleep under: as many as are reasonable, given the temperature

Favorite beverage(s): tea (black), fruit juice

The last movie I watched in the cinema:…I actually don’t remember. It might have been the first Hobbit movie. I haven’t been to a movie theater in a very long time.

Three things I can’t live without: dogs, lots of water (my meds make me very dehydrated), idk my meds probably

Something I plan on learning: well, I’m preparing for my PhD comprehensive exams this semester, so basically too many things

A piece of advice for all my followers
Get enough sleep, stay hydrated, eat regular meals, and try to go outside at least once a day, if possible. Everything else comes much easier if these things are constant.

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nicki minaj is the most beautiful woman on the earth idk if i’m gonna be able to survive the anaconda video??? 

update i’m sooo gay i’m sooooooooooooo gaaaaay

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Justice being adorable

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Do you think every president goes through a awkward first few weeks in office when they’re not sure when’s the right time to ask if aliens are real or not?

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"you’re too young to know what your sexuality is" said the straight person to a queer teenager 

"he’s such a ladies’ man" said the straight person about a 6 month old baby that doesn’t know what a lady is

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